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Time
Management
Sometimes you
can take control of the situations and events that cause stress by
taking control of your time.
Most people expect too much of themselves, and try to do too much.
Attempting to do
too much in too little time can cause a significant amount of stress.
In most instances, the stressors (those events or situations that
cause stress) can
be eliminated or their impact can be reduced.
Changing your
perception and attitude about time, and learning to budget this
fourth dimension are the first steps toward reducing time's impact on your
health
and well-being.
Changing Your
Perception
Live in the here
and now, instead of in the past or in the future.
Take notice of what is happening at the moment, instead of being anxious
about
what might happen in the future.
Focus on what is happening now, instead of the situation that
occurred an hour ago.
Don't wear a
wristwatch when it is not absolutely necessary to be at a certain place,
or do a specific task, at an exact time.
Do only one
thing at a time, instead of three or four at once.
Instead of trying to talk on the telephone while making dinner and
keeping an eye
on the kids in the yard, let the phone ring.
Call the person back when things have slowed down.
Slow down.
Talk more slowly and try to avoid interrupting others.
Walk more slowly, instead of racing around.
Take time to
smile and acknowledge people.
Notice your surroundings instead of pre-occupying yourself with
thoughts.
Drive the speed
limit.
Don't weave in and out of lanes to get a few cars (and a few seconds)
ahead.
While waiting in lines, take pleasure in the process instead of
becoming irritated.
Observe your
posture.
Feel yourself supported by the ground.
Feel your arms dangling at your sides or supported inside your coat
pockets.
Do deep breathing exercises and concentrate on relaxing your
shoulders.
Convince
yourself that it's OK to simply do nothing.
Schedule at least 15 minutes into every day to simply do nothing.
Wake up and
appreciate the little things in life.
Really look at your surroundings.
Listen to the sounds of your environment.
Feel the wind or the temperature on your skin.
Budgeting
Your Time
Budgeting your
time is the same as prioritizing your time with respect to events and people. Many people have
trouble saying no when someone requests their time.
Time requests
come in many forms, such as telephone conversations, unscheduled
or extended meetings and social invitations to which individuals feel a
responsibility
to attend.
It's important
to realize that YOU own your time. While
there may be concessions
that you need to make at work and in relationships, ultimately how you
choose to
"spend" your time is your decision.
The following
tips may help you budget your valuable time more wisely:
1. Make "to
do" lists.
Keep track of things that you must do,
things that you feel like you should do,
and things that you want to do.
2. Review those
things that you feel you SHOULD do and ask yourself, "why?"
Then, consider whether or not it is your responsibility to do them,
or if there is
someone else who could do them or who would want to do them?
Try to take these items off your list and give them to someone
else: a co-worker,
your spouse, a neighbor, a hired helper.
Chances are, if
you take time to do all of the things that you feel you should do, you
may not have time for those things that you must or want to do, and you
probably
won't get personal satisfaction from having accomplished them anyway.
3. Now review
your "must do" list and ask yourself if you, personally, must
really do
the items on the list?
Ask yourself if there is someone else who could also do them.
Also ask yourself if the items on the list are truly necessary?
If not, take them off the list.
4. Now that you
have your list down to those things you must do and those things
you want to do, start prioritizing them.
Don't try to complete everything at once.
Assign a date and/or a time to each of the tasks.
Spread them out and don't try to jam them into unrealistic time periods.
Draw a line through each item as it is completed.
5. Identify
people or events that "steal or waste your time."
Try to take control of those uninvited events that intrude on your time.
Don't answer the telephone.
Change your perception that you are obligated to answer the telephone
whenever
it rings.
Schedule
"closed door" times.
Ask others to not interrupt you during those periods, unless it is
absolutely
necessary.
Schedule "open door" times, during which anybody and everybody
can walk in
and brainstorm, chat or ask questions.
6. Realize that
it's OK to not be a perfectionist.
There is a difference between quality and perfection.
Striving for perfection on projects or details that do not require
perfection can waste
time and create stress.
7. Respect
others' desire and need to contribute.
Don't try to do everything yourself, when other individuals can and would
like to help.
What's The
Worst That Can Happen?
Learning to
manage your time is a process.
The more you do it, the easier it becomes.
In any given situation, always ask yourself:
"What is
the worst that can happen if I decline this person's invitation?"
"What is
the worst that can happen if I don't do this task?"
"What is
the worst that can happen if I don't complete this project on time?"
"What is
the worst that can happen if I choose not to attend this meeting or
event?"
"What is
the worst that can happen if I just say 'no'?" |
