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Signs
of Domestic Violence:
Domestic violence has different forms, but its goal is
always the same: control through fear.
Batterers abuse their spouse physically, sexually, psychologically and
economically.
This list identifies behaviors typically
demonstrated by batterers and abusive people.
All of these forms of abuse;
psychological, economic, and physical - come from the batterer's desire for
power and control.
 Physical
Abuse
Hitting, slapping, kicking, choking, pushing, punching, beating, forcing you to
leave and locking you out of the house.
Verbal Abuse
Constant criticism, making humiliating remarks, using abusive language, not responding to what you are
saying, mocking, name-calling, yelling, swearing, interrupting, changing the
subject.
Disrespect
Interrupting, changing topics, not listening or responding, twisting your words,
telling you what to think and how you should feel, putting you down in front of
other people, saying bad things about your friends and family.
Minimizing,
Denying & Blaming
Making light of behavior and not taking your concerns about it seriously, saying
the abuse didn't happen, shifting responsibility for abusive behavior, saying
you caused it.
Sexual
Violence
Forcing sex on an unwilling partner; demanding sexual acts that you do not want
to perform, degrading treatment.
Isolation
Preventing or making it hard for you to see friends and relatives, monitoring
phone calls, reading mail, controlling where you go, taking your car keys.
Coercion
and Pressure Tactics
Making you feel guilty, pushing you into decisions, sulking, manipulating
children and other family members, always insisting on being right, making up
impossible rules and punishing you for breaking them, rushing you to make decisions through "guilt-tripping" and other forms
of intimidation, sulking, threatening to withhold money, manipulating the
children, ordering you around.
Harassment
Following you, or stalking you, embarrassing you in public; constantly checking
up on you, refusing to leave when asked.
Economic
Control
Not paying bills, refusing to give you money, hiding or withholding financial
resources, not letting you work if that's what you choose to do, interfering
with your job, taking your car keys or otherwise preventing you from using the
car, refusing to work and support the family.
Abusing Trust
Lying, breaking promises, withholding important information, being unfaithful,
being overly jealous, not sharing domestic responsibilities.
Threats and
Intimidation
Threatening to harm you, your children, family members and pets; using physical
size to intimidate, shouting; standing in the door way during arguments to stop
you from leaving; keeping weapons and threatening to use them.
Emotional
Withholding or Neglect
Not expressing feelings, not giving compliments, not taking your concerns
seriously, not paying attention, not respecting your feelings, rights and
opinions. You never know where your relationships stands.
Not spending time with family.
Abusing
Authority
Always claiming to be right (insisting statements are "the truth");
telling you what to do or not to do; making big decisions; using twisted "logic"
Destruction
of Property
Destroying furniture, punching walls/doors, throwing things, breaking dishes,
kicking or hurting pets.
Self-Destructive Behavior
Abusing drugs or alcohol, threatening self-harm or suicide, driving recklessly,
deliberately doing things that will cause trouble (like telling off the boss).
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