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Homosexual Feelings

Question: 
I have been experiencing a vaginal reaction which is a moistening and sometimes feels like a clitoral sensation in response to other women for some time. I consider myself heterosexual, and experience what I understand to be regular romantic feelings and sexual enjoyment with the men I have had relationships with. I do not and have not experienced romantic feelings towards women, and have never dreamed of being in a relationship with a woman. However, the vaginal responses I have, which are generally towards attractive young women, are also often indiscriminate and can be towards even women I think are unattractive. What disturbs me is that I do not experience this vaginal reaction to men unless I am in a state of near or actual sex. And yet it is men who I see myself with and flirt with and have dreams about. 
Can you help me with getting an understanding of this? I have tried to consider myself as bisexual, just with completely different experiences/wants/desires of men compared with women. I appreciate anything you might have to say in responding to my issues.
vanessa



Response:
Hello Vanessa

I don't know if your reaction to women has necessarily anything to do with physical sexuality.  Especially as you identify yourself as heterosexual and are comfortable with it.  

Sometimes strong feelings are evoked when one is getting in touch with their own femininity in a very subtle way.  I have no studies or anything to back this claim, except my own instincts and sense.  Many women are not in touch with their feminine self, and assume that these reactions have to do with homosexuality.  I believe that it is the feminine getting in touch with it's own femininity... other women 'mirror' that awareness within.

I would be interested in knowing if you are on any spiritual path that is making you sensitive to your femininity.  Or if you are becoming more aware of yourself in very subtle way?  Let me know your age also.

Regards
Uzma Mazhar