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Question:
Assalama Alaikum,

I am a 17 yr old female living in London. My parents  (my dad) has arranged for me to go on holiday to Pakistan this year in the summer to see my family. I have overheard that they would like me to get married to someone from pakistan, a cousin of mine. I do not wish this to happen. I have also found out that they will pressure me into it when i reach the country. I have been born and raised in Britain and i do not agree to get married to an uneducated ancient minded person. My family is form a very narrow minded place and do not agree for daughters to have permission in marriage as parents always know best. Can u please give me an idea on what i should do and what help i could be offered in Pakistan or by the British Embassy. Plz let me know as soon as possible

Response:
Wa Aleikum Salam

You are in a tough situation.  Is it possible to talk to your mother, siblings or some other relatives or friends for support?  Sometimes it is surprising how many people are willing to help in such a situation.  This is the time for you to speak out and be open about your feelings, don't be scared even though you know it will create problems.  Fight for your life. 

Then if everything else fails you will need to get in touch with local agencies that help women. 
This is a group based in UK that helps women.
Muslim Women's Helpline
     http://www.amrnet.demon.co.uk/related/mwhl/

Hope everything works out for the best.
Regards,
Uzma Mazhar